Tips for Dads - Emotionally Healthy Twins

This will help establish your role as a father, ease your wife’s desperation, and above all help to form a
unique relationship with each baby from day one. Babyhood is a wonderful time to begin to know each
child as a single being, apart from his twin and his mother.

Be involved, available, and accommodating

Spend alone time with each baby

Support the need for outside help

Make time to be together with your wife

Reconnect with physical affection and emotional support

Listen with empathy and concern

Gifts of time, patience, love, and affirmation.

Couples need to appreciate each other's strengths. Emotionally supportive couples raise happier
families.

You don’t need to come up with specific solutions. When your wife reveals how distraught she is by
all that is expected of her, she will appreciate just being listened to.

With patience and understanding sexual intimacy will resume to help lessen expectable emotions of
feeling left out, replaced, or abandoned.

With all that you’re both going through, you need experiences that help you reconnect and enjoy
each other’s company away from your babies.

New moms tend to be hard on themselves and may view the need for help as a measure of their own
inadequacy. Help your wife understand that this is definitely not the case.

directives. Remember that “fathers do not mother, they father" (Dr. Kyle Pruett)

might want to establish a routine whereby you take turns taking walks, doing errands, or just hanging
out with one baby at a time.